Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult. After 21 years and an approaching empty nest, my husband has taken a new mistress His new, or rather, "renovated" mistress is physical activity. I have been married to an anesthesiologist for 15 years his 2nd marriage. However, like the comment posted on March 18th the program only had one or two wives and the ones they do have are busy with their kids. God roots for both our teamsвthe hopeful screw-ups and the straights. I know a lot of Mormons who were also not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender rolesвbut I was, as were many of my peers. What do you guys do about this-- do you go with your spouse. The sons inevitably went inactive later in life. Dozens of missionaries have told me that the gender ratios in other countries are far, far worse. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up.
Unfortunately, this has led to a culture of Mormon girls who are absolutely obsessed with Disney and even as adults dream of being Disney princesses. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned. As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. We have family prayer every day and read the scriptures occasionally. We generally don't talk on the phone, but text a few times throughout the week. But she probably is more in love with the idea of you, than with you. And those women are very replaceable to them. We've only been dating for a short time. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost.
We have a happy marriage. Real love just happens. Be prepared for divorce. This means no swearing, loud talking, or making offensive jokes. I have been married to a doctor for 5 years now and we have two children. Would they have stayed in the church if dad was a member.
So it will just be for this life that it may be hard to have a non-believing spouse. And after years of this struggle, will your love for him and desire to avoid the hassle cause you to reduce your activation. But it is luck of the draw. Mormonism is an all-in religion. I also felt like I could never be a good wife. I also know that whenever exceptions are made, there are reasons. Did you know Joseph smith married the wives of other living men.
