If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else. I've started dating this girl a few months ago, but it's only now that it dawned on me how hard it is to date with her crazy work schedule.
Their thinking is something like this. The man presides over everything. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. To answer your question: Even when he does, everything is on his terms.
I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. If kids ever came into the picture though, I wouldn't want to be isolated from them psychologically or banned from walking my daughter down the aisle someday. The reality, however, has been far from it, as the small number of wives we do have in the program seem to be busy raising their kids or not really interested in developing these relationships. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids. No easy answers here. Be open to the wisdom the Spirit will share. I think there's a chance you two can find a way to agree on a lifestyle and values. We can also save our errant children by our valiancy too. But those days may be gone. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church.
Of course, your parents will care most. Always know the hospital and patients come first-it is just a given. I have observed in relationships among friends and family inside and outside of the church that holding a temple recommend does not guarantee a strong, happy marriage. Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. No nagging, no emotional neediness, etc. Thanks for the Blog.