Be gentle with them and yourself. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. Will things get better.
I have this brain trapped after all these years. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church. The sad part is that he does not understand what I go through or if I complain or try to make him understand about what's going on at home or my feelings. I felt her fear, everything she's said, I said. In each case, you should also consider how this will affect your families.
Sure I have met alot of douche bag doctors who have no morals, think they are 'it' and you know that they feel free to cheat whenever. I can second this, as a lifelong utahn this is why I simply have a "no mormons" policy for dating. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon. My wife and her family are a good example of this. It is crucial to recognize that Mormonism has elements of belief, practice, and custom that work to make interfaith marriages especially difficult and inconvenient for both spouses. Reading your blog has helped, especially in seeing that these lonely feelings are normal.
Today, I actually feel like I might literally go insane. I can completely relate to all the other doctor' s wives feelings and life experiences. I never thought fellowship would be worse than residency and boy was I wrong.