Lots of women have trouble orgasming — and a lot of women can orgasm just fine but take a damn long time to do it. Now, taking a while is nothing to be embarrassed about — you should take all the time you need and know that there's nothing wrong with you if it takes a while to get off — and it's partly down to the way that we're built. According to Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure , it can take women around 20 minutes to reach peak arousal. Of course it is. But if you want to finish faster, whether it's to sync up with a partner or because you've got things to do and people to see, there are plenty of ways to do it. Part of it depends on whether you're wanting to come faster during sex or if you're just trying to up your masturbation game. No matter what you're looking for, there are options — techniques, products, and general ways to explore.
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How to cum more: How to produce more sperm and shoot bigger loads of ejaculate. Many men who masturbate every day experience delayed ejaculation when having sex with a woman, and wonder how to cum faster. Men who focus too much on satisfying their partners get anxious, leading to no ejaculation or a delayed and weak ejaculation with less semen volume.
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There's all kind of talk about women and orgasms, how cerebral the process is, and how even the slightest distraction or concern can sabotage her O-face. And that's all true. But it was recently brought to my attention that some guys have the same problem. It's easy to believe that men are sex machines, able to get it on any way, anywhere — especially with an available willing candidate to facilitate the process. And when a guy is nervous, anxious or tense the likelihood of a resulting orgasm — despite how hard his dick might be — grows slim. Men and women have a lot more in common in the carnal cranial department than you might think. A frequent hurdle in a woman's path to orgasm is fear she's taking too long to come. Whether she's receiving oral pleasures, diddling herself during coitus, or performing a solo show for her partner, the instant that concern enters her mind often is the instant her clitoris packs up and heads home. Some men have the same issue — especially when receiving oral sex. Porn and mainstream movies have helped instill the stereotype that the moment a man's penis is stroked it's mere minutes away from a spooge surge.
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